Are smartphones a relationship killer?

Are smart phones a relationship killer?

Technology has a lot to answer for, but a relationship killer?

Apparently so.

Red FM asked callers last week about their technological home habits, like using their smart phones and laptops when in the company of loved ones. I may be a love guru here, but my doppelganger is in the digital sphere and I would be as guilty as these callers for late night surfing. 

But just how detrimental is a smart phone in a relationship?

Is answering calls, replying to late-night texts and surfing the web a warning sign or just a sign of the times we live in?

I'm going to discuss three reasons why your significant other is spending more time surfing than smooching.

1.     Simply bored 

Ok, I know it’s a hard reason to consider, and being 'bored' of a person can point to a discord in the relationship or draw attention to the fact that things are becoming stale. But so what, you can rectify that by exploring exciting ideas to lure them from boredom to bedroom.

It could also mean that they need a new activity to re-awaken them and quell the boredom or steer them out of tiredness. Routine, habitual tasks can become tedious and unsatisfying after lengthy periods, so a new activity such as badminton, martial arts, dance classes or music lessons could increase energy levels and revitalize your relationship. Martial Arts is also useful for taking out all your stresses and badminton will appeal to your competitive side. The mantra here – die of exhaustion, not boredom.

 2.     Internet addict

It’s a cycle of constant search and read, download and play. Internet addicts are hungry for media, information and social media. In fact, it can border on obsessive. However, there is more to life than the internet and in the good ‘old’ days we would find countless ways to gain these interactions – like meeting people physically and talking to them. Imagine!

If your other half is spending more time canoodling with his inanimate objects, then whisk him away to the social scene like a concert, show, comedy event, music gig or local pub. Be sure to ‘accidentally’ leave the phone on the sofa.

3.     Total geek           

True geeks are only really happy with a gadget in tow and a piece of code to unlock the secrets of the world. They live breathe, eat and sleep geek-culture and are best paired with a similar being.

It’s a ‘no win’ with one. So either switch models, or go with the ‘if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em’ approach.

I wish you luck on your quest and be sure to share your success stories on the website at corkindependent.com.